Comments on: spouse for sale

By: thecandis24

thecandis24 — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 16:46:22 +0000

I really needed to hear this today I am newly wed and I come from a broken home. The way I was taught to communicate is not very healthy, but thanks to God my husband is a very patiente man and it is through his patience that I see the love of Christ.

By: jennifer benson schuldt

jennifer benson schuldt — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:35:59 +0000

I like this comment about praying before speaking. It’s hard to do in a heated conversation, but it’s exactly what we need to do to exhibit spirit-led self-control. And, as an encouragement, God’s Word says: “Gentle words are a tree of life”. What a joy to know that we have the power to help and support our friends and family with our words!

By: jennifer benson schuldt

jennifer benson schuldt — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:29:57 +0000

Yes! James 3:2 says, “If we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.”

By: mprez2006

mprez2006 — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:50:24 +0000

so true Proverbs 27:15,16 tells us the same:

15 A quarrelsome wife is like
a constant dripping on a rainy day;

16 restraining her is like restraining the wind
or grasping oil with the hand.

By: bethanyF

bethanyF — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:26:40 +0000

I think I need to be slower to speak and pray about what I say before I say it. Praise God.

By: Walla

Walla — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:22:28 +0000

Thank you so much for the insight. I am married to the most beautiful lady on the planet. However, since we got married until today, we barely communicate. In most cases, I tried to push her to talk but it creates some tensions and resistance. Thus, I became reserved in order to avoid any argument and conflict.

By: Gary4orphans

Gary4orphans — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:44:32 +0000

Nagging or other negative speech is actually counter productive, it tends to create a defensive posture on the part of the “victim” and creates a stubborn attitude of “what’s the point?” of trying to improve in this area because he/she will just find something else to nag about…a no-win perspective and thus no motivation to change.

IF (I say “if”) the intent is to bring about a constructive change then a constructive and positive delivery would simply be more effective.

I respond better to “Honey, will you take out the trash when you get a moment” compared to a shrieking “YOU NEVER THROW OUT THE TRASH WITHOUT BEING TOLD!!!!”

Which one of those statements would encourage you to throw out the trash willingly and which would cause you to go into full defense mode?

The law of sowing and reaping is clearly seen in our communication patterns. Sow pleasantness and receive a pleasant response. Sow angry discord and receive the same back. (Prov 15:1)

By the way, my wife is the “Honey, will you take out the trash when you get a moment” type and amazing, I throw out the trash without any drama, dare I say, even willingly.

By: riri

riri — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:51:26 +0000

This also reminds me that what we say speaks volumes about our soul and thought life. We have to keep our minds on things above

By: riri

riri — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:47:15 +0000

I really needed this one! Everyday, you writers write something to inspire my soul in the midst of the storm that I am going through and to remind me that I must have and keep my joy that the Lord gives me, and not allow my enemies to steal it. Thank you!!! Amen! Hallelujah!!!