you choose Q: should I leave my unbelieving partner? do I marry an unbeliever?
Q: I was raised a believer but left the faith in my teens, during which time I became involved in a sinful relationship. The difficulties arising from this relationship brought me back to Christ and I am a practicing Christian. My partner knows this and accepts this. My problem is that I have asked for forgiveness for the sins that brought our relationship about but I’m not sure if I should end it? Am I supposed to renounce all of it to leave my sinful ways or stay here because God turns everything for His glory? Do I marry a non-believer? —Lindsey
A: Hi, Lindsey. Thank you for your question. I can understand why you feel confused. It can feel like no answer is the right one.
But it’s clear that having the same mindset and sharing the same values is imperative in a marriage relationship. I can’t stress that enough. That’s why Scripture is clear about the importance of being equally bound in marriage (2 Corinthians 6:14). Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
Being yoked means that you’re bound to one another. If you’re bound to a person who doesn’t share the same direction in life or the same life vision or values, the two of you will constantly be pulling in different directions. It will be contentious and full of conflict. This is a recipe for extreme unhappiness and/or disaster.
It’s so important for you to follow what Scripture and your redeemed heart is telling you. The Holy Spirit will give you direction and guide you and give you the courage to do what you know to be right for you. Also, seek godly counsel for mature believers who truly follow God’s Word.
I hope these thoughts and resources prove to be helpful! —Allison Stevens
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