Q: I’ve fallen in love with an unbeliever, but I know it’s wrong. What should I do?  —Keliya

A: Keliya, your heart is obviously torn in two over this relationship. On one hand, you’re strongly drawn to a young man. This is understandable, for—as a human being—he bears the image of our Creator God. Apparently, your boyfriend also possesses some qualities that you appreciate.

At the same time, you instinctively know there are dangers of becoming emotionally involved with a man who could draw you away from your allegiance to Jesus. Christians who have stayed in these types of romantic relationships will tell you that it is the Christian who usually makes the compromises. It’s only the rare exception in which the unbeliever comes to know Christ, and many times it’s because the believer threatened to end the relationship or actually ended it.

Knowing all of this, it’s hard to imagine that it would be best to continue in the relationship. It’s good for you to pray for this young man to believe in Christ, but your prayers should be for him as a friend and nothing more.

For more information, I would suggest you read this online booklet about marriage (where dating can lead) and see if your relationship jibes with what the Bible teaches.   —Jeff Olson

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